Friends, how many of us have them?

Friends how many of us have them?

Good true friends are hard to come by in this generation. There are so many factors that come with deciphering who is your friend, who is your associate/acquaintance, who is against you, who is not real with you, who doesn’t really care about you, and who wants to see you fail.

Personally I have struggled with this even as an adult. Because I am so social I come in contact with a lot of people, however, I am still reminded that everyone is not a real friend. I have lost best friends, new friends, and lost touch with old friends. Some for no real apparent reason, some I still wonder what happened to us that caused us to act as strangers, some have become just social media connections, and some showed there true colors. Some shocked me by their actions and the lack of loyalty and respect for me. Some people are only meant to be in your life for a season. I have been able to master allowing those people to go with that season is up. I have lost a lot of friends along the way all throughout my life in various stages. It is all in how you handle it. Now do not get me wrong I have some great friends as well. Just not as many.

However, moving to a new city one hopes to gain close friends or a best friend here as well. It is hard because you are learning people and trying to build a friendship at the same time. I do have some good friends here as well. But life is always a learning lesson to eventually know who is for you and who is not for you. I am still working on this after being here for three and a half years.

I have witnessed other people around me take losing friends very hard. That is what I want to speak about because I want each of you to live your life to the highest quality. Pick up your crown, shine it up, and adjust it on your beautiful head! Only thing you can control is YOU! That means being the best friend that you could possibly be and be completely genuine. Now that is on the other person if they chose to do you wrong because they will be losing a great friend in you. That's the karma they will have to live with and you can walk away with your head held high. Life has cycles and seasons so allow people to play out their time then move on. You have so much more to accomplish and things to worry about than those that walk out of your life.

The moral of the story is true lifelong friends are hard to come by so that select group should be appreciated. Cherish those great friends! Be there for them in all ways when they need you! Do not be a selfish friend and always expect something from those around you. What are you pouring into their lives? How are you making them better? How are you positively adding to their life? It should be a mutual friendship and that is beneficial to all parties. Do you have a toxic friendship that you know is not good for you? Wait is holding you there? We only get one life to live might as well live it to the highest quality as possible! Be a great friend and only surround yourself with great friends. Life is too short to hold on to dead friendships. And understand it is totally okay to have acquaintances just know your limits and understand your relationship. What qualities do you look for in a true friend? What are the no-no girl codes?